Life Management Skills Overview Time!

Well, the past 14 weeks were rather fun for me in lms. especially during the times where my group and i prepared the projects. the lessons were also very beneficial to me, where i learned to control my time better, and even my life. some of the research i did for my project for time-management were also very interesting, and most of them are relevant to everyone of us.

Time and priority management

the biggest impact on me from lms is actually time and priority management. it ACTUALLY teaches me on how to manage my time. and ya, i thought it would be a rather bored topic at first as i know i could manage my life, just because i can do/study at the very last-minute and score a's when others can't. doing things well even at the last-minute IS my forte. however, what i can't stand is the stress and helplessness at the very last-minute, especially when everything on hand snowballs into one huge .. snowball? i will get really irritated at small little things at this point of time, after killing myself with negative thoughts that demoralises me even more. things like why am i wasting my time once again, why am i so lazy and why am i always late start to crowd in my mind and i will feel really bad for people who suffered because of my inability to manage my time. well, i really did have a bad time table. no no, i meant, no timetable and really bad time management skills. there were many times i really felt like breaking down and do nothing as there were too much to be done within a day. this is the effect of bad time management. but life still goes on doesn't it? what i can say is, change myself for the better, or even for the people around me, get the motivation i need and most importantly, use what i learn from LMS.

and yes, after researching through time-management in the net and going through the lessons in mel, i have better managed my time better. lesser procastinations, lesser distractions, more playtime, better reviews of my performances, lesser time-wasting, lesser stress, NO MORE getting irritated when things get undone and NO MORE questions for why i always need more time. BECAUSE, there is prioritising of my goals and priorities in my life. well, how did i do it? very easy. put all my long-term goals and long-term priorities in my mind and just do it. well, my long-term goal in my life is to actually earn a lot of money and become one of the top accountants in Singapore, and also setting up an accounting firm and becoming a CEO. to achieve this, firstly, i MUST get my diploma in Ngee Ann. use this long-term goal as an inspiration to study and it works. for my o's, i motivated myself by studying out with pretty girls. :D. this is also the same for things other than studies. projects, play-time can also be kept at balance. after i manage all these things in my life, i motivate myself somemore by giving treats to myself like more playtime and giving praises to myself. it makes myself feel good and as so, i have the motivation to continue like this. of course, its not so easy to always keep the same motivation cum inspiration. therefore, change it once in a while when procrastinations and distractions step in. LAST BUT NOT LEAST, as for the amount of work i put in for the things i do, i reckon that it has always been 100% if not 110%. therefore, it won't be that tough for me to be successful in the things i do as long as i manage my time and do them. life isn't what you want it to be, it's what you MAKE it become.

Understanding You and Me

Listening

What exactly is listening? Is it just that easy to listen and catch everything the person want to convey? for me, i doubt so. why do god give us just only one mouth but two ears? obviously, its for us to listen more than we talk.

well, one of the external barriers i encountered in my secondary school was weather. everyday it will be really hot after 1pm in school and everyone will start to fall asleep as we could not concentrate in the terrible weather. sometimes, it can also be the teacher's fault! i once had a teacher in my secondary school who taught in a monotonous tone. many classmates of mine cannot stand it and sleep in her class. however, i did not sleep! its because i have self-discipline and also interest in the subject itself. therefore, there's no excuse for me to not listen to teachers due to external barriers for me.

what i feel about listening is that is has always been a natural ability given by god so that we can communicate. but after attending the lesson on listening, understanding you and me, i feel that internal barriers are the ones which causes people to be ineffective in listening. that's because, internal barriers are often self-created and take place within the individual's mind and body, making them harder to detect than external barriers. so its like all these internal barriers are invisible to us. well, i realised that most of the ineffective listening styles are caused by the other internal barriers such as using "filters" and emotions to interpret what the speaker is talking about. one example of an internal barrier is my physical state, where i eventually get bored at the last 30 minutes of tutorial after concentrating for like one and a half hour. its a chore to concentrate for so long you know! especially when the module/subject is difficult to master.

then, once again, my "filter" does affect my performance in listening. i cannot be bothered to listen to who always talk nonsense. however, it may not be as good as he may be asked to convey some important message to me. what i learned in lms taught me to identify the filters i have that determine my perception, reception of ideas and information, and attention during the listening process. and it shows the more positive my perception of the person, the more receptive i am to their views, and the higher the possibility that i will pay attention to what they say. for example, previously, i have worked in sales. one of the reasons for one of my sales was because that certain customer talked to my boss and was convinced by him, as the perception of me as compared to my boss was less convincing of the product i was selling.

however with barriers to listening, there are obviously ways to overcome them, such as our attitude matters, being open-minded, resisting barriers to listening etc.

Since attending LMS, i have come to realize that the root to effective listening is in our attitude. when we have the right attitude towards what we are doing, and in my case, studying, paying attention is not longer a problem as i do know my priorities, and know that i should listen, and not just plainly hear. with the right attitude, ANYTHING is possible.

Anger management


well, i do not really get angry since i retained in sec three, as i always believe that when something happen, something must have caused it that way. there was this big incident before i retained in secondary three, where i was angry at my family for not providing me the basic needs of life which i need, and more importantly, love.

i kept in my anger at my family, especially at my father. he loves to gamble even though we were poor then. at school, my results were equally bad and i mixed with bad company. i often skipped school and stayed home to play games. so, whenever my father saw me playing games at the computer, he would scold me in a very bad manner which only increases my hatred and anger at him. it was then one day that my brother confronted me and i had a breakdown, venting all my anger out at the family for not being able to understand me and not being able to provide me with the needs i have as a teenager. it was a rather emotional situation then, where i even scolded my mother for giving birth to me. this was an example of the outburst i had. my mother then told me the reason why she did not leave my father even though there were so many problems. it was because of my family. she did not want me to live in a broken family. i realised how bad i was and i knew what i had to do. she has been through so much just for the sake of me and my elder brother and sisters. since then i was able to look into other reasons why people were angry at certain things. i believe that there are reasons some way or another that things happen in a way. well, even if i do get angry now, i will look into why people behaved that way and suggest ways i could look around it instead of being angry myself. the last resort i will do is to confront the person and ask him the reason why he behaves like this. :).

Thats alllll! ::)).